Infertile for 7 years!
My husband and I got married in 2004 with the intention of starting a family straightaway. We didn’t want to wait at all. I had always dreamed that I would have all the children I wanted/desired before I was 30. But little did we know that God had another plan for us.
My husband is the first of 3 children and his siblings had children already. For those that come from the Nigerian culture, you will understand the pressure it is on a woman/wife to produce children immediately after marriage even more so when the husband is the first born child.
So after the 1st year of marriage, pressure started to mount. Even though we lived outside Nigeria, we still felt the pressure immensely.
Importance of Ovulation
On the medical side, I never ovulated regularly. I had periods like 2 – 3 times a year. As a young spinster, I was not too concerned as I was advised by the doctor that it would regulate itself but being married now, I began to understand how this was a big deal.
After going through series of test that we literally lost count. Lol. We were told that I had a dermoid cyst attached to my right ovary and an operation will have to be performed to remove the cyst as well as my right ovary. All the while we had held on to the word of God. I would scour through the scriptures and kept declaring what God said about my case.
So when the report that they would need to take out my right ovary, it did shake my faith. We placed the operation in God’s hands and we were at peace in our spirit. You see with or without ovaries, God is more than able. As He promised in Exodus 23:26, I knew I was not barren and that I would bring forth my own children.
Meanwhile, on the homefront, my husband was being pressured by his family to marry someone else or to impregnate someone else even though they knew we are Christians! There were a lot of accusations and but my husband stood his ground and didn’t mind being insulted. For years, he didn’t tell me what they had proposed and were imposing on him to do. He shielded me from the attacks and this and more, I will always be grateful for the kind of husband God blessed me with.
We had the operation and we resumed all the tests again and we were told as before that I couldn’t get pregnant and the best that could be done was IVF! I remember going for an internal test with a specialist doctor and when I asked him what he could see, he replied very sharply, “How can you want to have children when you are ovulating like this. This is not possible!” This report needless to say shook me to the very core and honestly, I don’t know how I got home. But after I wept till I couldn’t any more, God sent His word through my one of my sisters ” Who can speak and have it happen if the Lord has not decreed it” NIV Lamentations 3:37.
And this is what I held on to. The Word of God already declared that I am a fruitful vine in my husband’s house and any word/report contrary to this had not been decreed by Jehovah!
Faith and actions work hand in hand
We also decided to put our faith to work! In addition to declaring the Word of God over the issue, we began to buy baby clothes and other baby items. We placed our children’s names on the wall in our bedroom next to our bed. We saw the names every time we went to bed and when we got up!
In June, 2011, a Word of prophecy came in our church from the mouth of my Pastor that what you have been trying to get 7 years, God will do for you in less than 3 months. I held on to the word. I had been feeling funny and asked my husband to get some pregnancy test for me and he bought 4 different types. I used one as I felt so strongly that I was pregnant but it was negative. I tried again in July and August but it was still negative. I remember my husband saying “these tests are faulty, you need to go to the clinic!” Lol. About 3 weeks to our 7th year anniversary, I used the last test kit as I had told God I would not check again until I got peace in my spirit to do so.
When Jesus says yes nobody can say no!
This time it came positive! Hallelujah!!. When we had a scan, I was more than 12 weeks pregnant so all the while I had been doing the test I was already pregnant and the devil wanted to steal our joy by covering it up but you see when Jesus says yes, no one, no devil can say no!
I gave birth to a beautiful daughter in June 2012 and another girl in April 2015. God is more than faithful. If God has given you a Word, you must hold on because as the day follows the night, it will surely come to pass.