A miscarriage is the loss of a pregnancy during the first 23 weeks.
My experience with miscarriage
When we started trying for a baby, I suffered 3 miscarriages consecutively. My first miscarriage was a shock as I was not prepared for it at all and I was only a few days close to the critical 12 weeks. Additionally we had been so overjoyed about our pregnancy since we had been trying for years and so we had shared the good news with family and friends.
I will never forget when I started spotting and the tell tale signs of miscarriage became obvious, it seemed like my whole world was completely ripped apart. Thankfully Michael and I pulled through with the help of the HolyGhost and close friends and family.
When I took in the second time, fear gripped me as I could not rid myself of my previous experience even though it was over a year before yet it was still very raw.
Despite my fears and trying everything possible to avoid another miscarriage, yet my body could not hold this second pregnancy and I again miscarried.
I then went on with a third pregnancy, which again I miscarried and at that junction, we had to seek the Lord for guidance as well as sought medical help.
Prevalence of miscarriage
Miscarriage reportedly occurs in 20 percent of all pregnancies. However many women, before realising they are pregnant may miscarry without knowing it-assuming their miscarriage is merely a heavier period. Of the number of women who miscarry, 20 percent will suffer recurring miscarriages.
Types of Miscarriages
- Missed abortion
- Complete abortion
- Incomplete abortion
Here is some more information on miscarriages you may find helpful:
Can miscarriages be prevented?
The majority of miscarriages can’t be prevented. If a woman has suffered from more than three miscarriages, some women can be helped to keep their pregnancy with medication under the care of a specialist.
However, there are some things you can do to reduce the risk of a miscarriage. Eating a healthy diet and reducing your risk of infection can help.
Obesity can increases your risk of miscarriage. A person is obese when they have a body mass index (BMI) of over 30.
The best way to protect your health and your baby’s wellbeing is to lose weight before you become pregnant. By reaching a healthy weight, you cut your risk of all the problems associated with obesity in pregnancy.
Treating the root cause
Sometimes the cause of a miscarriage can be identified. In these cases, it may be possible to have treatment to prevent this causing any more miscarriages for instance:
Antiphospholipid syndrome (APS), also known as Hughes syndrome, is a condition that causes blood clots. It can be treated with medication. Research has shown that a combination of aspirin and heparin (a medicine used to prevent blood clots) can improve pregnancy outcomes in women with the condition.
A type of investigation known as Abnormal Thromboelastogram is conducted to determine if you have this blood disorder. It is only undertaken in a handful of hospitals. If all other alternatives have been done and still suffer miscarriages, ask your doctor about this blood tests and for a referral to the appropriate Hospital. In UK, only 3 centres undertake this test, one of which is St’ Mary’s NHS Trust Fertility Clinic.
A weakened cervix, also known as cervical incompetence, can be treated with an operation to put a small stitch of strong thread around your cervix to keep it closed. This is usually carried out after the first 12 weeks of your pregnancy, and is removed around week 37.
Research has shown that fibroids are associated with increased midtrimester losses in women with recurrent miscarriage, and that removal of cavity-distorting fibroids i.e. those fibroids inside the lining of the womb may increase live birth rates and reduce the losses.
A significant proportion of Afrocarribean black women suffer from Fibroids, however not all of these women will have problems or show any symptoms. The location of the fibroids determines whether or not you suffer any symptoms.
I know a number of people that have carried their pregnancy successfully with fibroids although some women encounter pain and cramping yet they have been able to carry to term.
There are many fears regarding undertaking surgery and the potential complications that may arise. As a child of God you need to know that like David enquired of the Lord before he went to fight to recover his family that we need to ask God to lead and guide us in the path He wants us to take. Do not take this decision without Him!
We have a number of testimonies on the link below that shows that you can still carry a successful pregnancy after fibroid tumour surgery (Myomectomy).
If you’ve had recurrent miscarriages, you and your partner can be tested for abnormalities in your chromosomes (blocks of DNA) that could be causing the problem, which is the rarest of known causes. This type of testing is known as karyotyping.
If karyotyping detects problems with your or your partner’s chromosomes, you can be referred to a clinical geneticist (gene expert).
They’ll be able to explain your chances of a successful pregnancy in the future and whether there are any fertility treatments, such as in vitro fertilisation IVFthat you could try. This type of advice is known as genetic counselling.
Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS)
This is a is a condition that affects how a woman’s ovaries work.
It’s difficult to know exactly how many women have PCOS, but it’s thought to be very common and affect millions of women.
The three main features of PCOS are:
- cysts develop in your ovaries (polycystic ovaries)
- your ovaries are not regularly releasing eggs (ovulating) as required normally
- high levels of “male hormones” called androgens are in your body.
PCOS affects a woman’s fertility due to irregular ovulatution and have been suggested to result in miscarriage of pregnancies.
Our God is able! We have a testimony (Baby after 7 years) on the Homepage to encourage you that you can have children in spite of PCOS diagnosis.
Coping with Miscarriage, healing and recovery
Miscarriage remains an uncomfortable subject in our society. The silence permeating the topic causes more psychological pain for the grieving mother since she is unable to mourn openly and properly. The grieving process provides much healing to the emotional and mental health of the woman and without it, she finds, she suffers alone.
Miscarriage, brings great psychological and emotional pain. The loss of pregnancy does not end with expelled fetal matter-for many, miscarriage brings about the death of a child. Although medical terminology does not deem the developing embryo or fetus as a child, many mothers attach to the pregnancy early on. When the miscarriage occurs, the woman loses not just a pregnancy, but a child and her dreams for that child.